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Sassy Mouth


Recently, I wrote about The Look of Love.  Well, here is the look that says you better straighten up!  I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard my mother say "don't you sass me."  A sassy mouth was not tolerated.  Showing disrespect always had consequences.  Teaching me to control my mouth was a job my parents took very seriously.  In addition to sass, sarcasm and jokingly or causally cutting down others with my words was forbidden.

As I listen to the news and read social media tweets and comments/commentaries, I find myself wondering if we've taken our right to "free speech way too far."  Have we developed "sassy mouth"?  It's wonderful that we live in a nation where we have the right to be heard but I'm just wondering ... can't we still be heard by sticking to the facts and remaining respectful?  I admit I fail miserably.  These days, I find myself talking down to those on the TV and about the folks in the news.  Yes, I talk to the TV!  I could go so far to say I'm simply responding to rude and disrespectful people and I imagine you would agree with me.  Right?  But, I'm really wrestling with how to handle the endless chatter I hear and read and my own response or chatter to it all.  Am I a sassy mouth?

The definition of sass is to talk to (someone) in a rude way that does not show respect.  

So, I ask myself:  Is it really okay for me to say or write something (publically or privately) that is rude and disrespects another person?  Is it okay for me to be snide, snarky and/or sarcastic?  When does my "opinion" actually cross the line and become slander and gossip?  In trying to come up with an answer, some pretty powerful verses in the Bible that I think apply to "sassy mouth" came to mind.  Reading them was almost like seeing "that" face and hearing "sassy mouth".  Busted.  The Holy Spirit using the Word of God called me out.

Let me share with you what I read and how it impacted me.  The below are passages from what were originally letters.  The authors were like a spiritual parent or father, writing to people they deeply loved. Just like a good parent, they were reminding them of what is good and right and how they should act and why it was so important. Oh, this is so good and practical.

For I fear that perhaps when I come I may find you not as I wish, and that you may find me not as you wish—that perhaps there may be quarreling, jealousy, anger, hostility, slander, gossip, conceit, and disorder. 2 Corinthians 12:20 

O Timothy, guard the deposit entrusted to you. Avoid the irreverent babble and contradictions of what is falsely called “knowledge...." 1 Timothy 6:20

But avoid irreverent babble, for it will lead people into more an more ungodliness, and their talk will spread like gangrene. 2 Timothy 2:16-17

If anyone thinks he is religious and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his heart, this person’s religion is worthless. James 1:26

With it (the tongue) we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.  James 3:9-10 (ESV)


Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.  Ephesians 4:29 (NASB)

Or translated another way...

Don't say anything that would hurt another person.  Instead, speak only what is good so that you can give help wherever it is needed.  That way, what you say will help those who hear you.  Ephesians 4:29 (NOG)


The Word of God parents me, guides me, teaches and reminds me.  I needed some spiritual parenting today.  How about you?

O Lord, set a guard over my mouth and keep watch over the door of my lips.  (Psalm 131:3)




Shut my mouth!

You know sometimes the things I think about other people are just wrong.  Then, there are those times when I open my mouth and actually share my wrong thoughts with someone else.  So, here are some things I've thought, I've said or I've had said to me.

  • That is not her color!
  • Muffin top is showing.
  • That is not in context so I'm not listening to them anymore.
  • They watch what?
  • Yep, they have gone the way of the world!
  • Where will that tattoo be when they are 80?
  • That voice is like running fingernails across a chalkboard.
  • They should not be in leadership.
  • Our personalities clash.
  • That is so not flattering on her.
  • Can you believe how much weight she has gained?  Bless her heart.

So, here's where the Lord has me this morning.  These thoughts or comments are not edifying - meaning they do not build up that person - in fact, they tear that person down. Some things - many things should never be said. I'm a verbal processor but even in my processing, what gives me the right to think it's okay to say something about another person that does not bring edification? Oh how sad that I cross that line so easily and so often. I'm not talking about speaking the truth in love.  I get there are times when I need to speak honestly but even then it is to be with grace and the best interest of the person in my heart.

I cannot even imagine God and Jesus sitting up in heaven saying things like the above. Even on my worse day, I can't imagine Jesus sitting before the Father saying some of the things I've said or that are said to me about others. Oh Jesus, shut my mouth!  When non edifying thoughts come to my mind, please point them out and cause me to confess before You that these thoughts are wrong thinking toward others. Sure, I know we all do it.  Sure, I know it's the battle of the flesh.  I just don't want it to be the pattern of my life. Wrong is wrong and I don't want to make excuses for myself anymore. Lord, please...shut my mouth!